Years ago I worked in a nursing home where there were a couple of residents who fell in love.  His family was fine with it - but hers most definitely wasn't.  They did everything possible to break them up - from berating her and forcing her to agree to never see him again, to calling the nursing home parent corporation demanding that I be fired for supporting them.  Although my boss didn't fire me, she certainly didn't back me up.  That's another story, for another time.  Or not.  

But the couple wanted to share a room, which is their right.  Each time the woman agreed to her daughter's face that she would break up with her boyfriend, she would later tell the nursing home staff that she said it to appease her daughter and had no intention of breaking off the relationship.  To support them and protect their rights, we called the Ombudsman, the state regulators, and a free legal service.  Her family shunned her and even refused to spend the holidays with her in an attempt to force her to break up with the gentleman.  It didn't work - and the end of her life was spent without her family supporting her.  They showed up to the hospital, but there was never the opportunity for her to tell them how much she loved them and that she forgave them for not being there for her the last year of her life. 

Patients in nursing homes, assisted livings, or even at home need love too.  We never lose the desire to feel loved and appreciated, nor do we always fall for someone our family likes.  That doesn't make it wrong, it just Is. 


09/08/2015 12:46pm

In order for a Nursing Home facility remain to be covered by Medical health insurance, you must enter a Medicare-approved skilled Nursing or elderly care facility within 30 days of a hospital remain that lasted at least three days.

02/04/2017 3:53am

Everybody need to be loved and love instead. This is a human nature.

07/11/2017 7:13pm

Patients need love too. I don't understand why there are people who want to see us unhappy with our lives. They think of themselves all the time, and I hate how selfish they are. If these patients are already free to love again,who are we to it right? As the nurse, what you did was right. I admire the fact that you became tough with your decision and stood by with your patients.


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