But the couple wanted to share a room, which is their right. Each time the woman agreed to her daughter's face that she would break up with her boyfriend, she would later tell the nursing home staff that she said it to appease her daughter and had no intention of breaking off the relationship. To support them and protect their rights, we called the Ombudsman, the state regulators, and a free legal service. Her family shunned her and even refused to spend the holidays with her in an attempt to force her to break up with the gentleman. It didn't work - and the end of her life was spent without her family supporting her. They showed up to the hospital, but there was never the opportunity for her to tell them how much she loved them and that she forgave them for not being there for her the last year of her life.
Patients in nursing homes, assisted livings, or even at home need love too. We never lose the desire to feel loved and appreciated, nor do we always fall for someone our family likes. That doesn't make it wrong, it just Is.